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If you healed what’s underneath, you wouldn’t keep slipping back into the habits you’re so tired of: the food when you’re overwhelmed, the wine when you’re stressed, the over-giving or people-pleasing when you’re already at capacity, and that “I don’t know why I did that again” feeling that hits you after.
This isn’t a discipline issue.
It’s not that you don’t know what to do.
It’s not a motivation problem.
It’s your system doing what it learned to do to keep you safe.
And until the part underneath feels supported, you’ll keep getting pulled into the same loops you’re trying so hard to break.
You’re not the problem. You’re overwhelmed.
You’re smart, self-aware, and deeply capable.
You’ve done the therapy, the podcasts, the journaling, the resets.
You can explain your patterns inside out.
But no one sees the part of you quietly holding everything together.
The part powering through the day while coming undone in the quiet moments.
The part that’s exhausted from being the strong one for everyone else.
There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re just stretched thin, holding more than anyone realises, and your system is overwhelmed.
And beneath all of it, there’s a version of you who just wants to exhale.
To feel like herself again.
To stop coping and start actually feeling good.
This is how it shows up (the stuff you rarely admit out loud)
→ You start the day determined to “be good” and end it at the pantry or pouring the wine you swore you wouldn’t touch.
You tell yourself you’ll do better tomorrow.
→ You hold it together all day, but the moment the house is quiet, you unravel into food or scrolling or both.
It’s not hunger. It’s relief. Then guilt.
→ You over-give when you’re already running on fumes.
At work, at home, with friends. You’re the one filling the gaps, carrying the load, smoothing the edges. Nobody checks how you are.
→ You swallow your truth to keep the peace.
It feels safer than saying what you really need.
→ Your relationship feels uneven or dating feels like meeting the same man with a different face.
The men you meet can’t match your effort or depth. You want closeness, but after past hurt, a part of you always holds back.
→ Your career looks great on paper but feels flat inside your body.
No spark. No creativity. Just responsibility.
→ You give incredible advice to everyone else but can’t seem to access it for yourself.
You hate that you know better and still feel stuck.
→ You miss yourself.
The you who laughed easily.
Who felt alive.
Who wasn’t coping her way through the week.
What’s actually going on
At some point, parts of you learned it was safer to:
✓ keep the peace
✓ stay small
✓ not need too much
✓ be agreeable
✓ be the strong one
✓ carry the emotional load
✓ avoid rocking the boat
These parts aren’t wrong.
They’re protective.
They’ve been doing the best they can with what they learned.
But willpower won’t shift them.
A new diet won’t shift them.
A fresh start on Monday won’t shift them.
More discipline won’t shift them.
Because this isn’t about knowledge.
It’s about safety.
Your system can’t let go of a behaviour it still believes is protecting you.
Here’s the truth
When you heal what’s underneath: the overwhelmed, scared, exhausted part trying to cope, the patterns you’ve been wrestling with finally lose their power.
Not because you’re trying harder.
Because your body no longer needs the coping.
That’s when things start changing without force.
You find yourself:
→ not reaching for food every time you’re stressed
→ not needing wine to take the edge off
→ not saying yes when you’re already at capacity
→ not carrying the emotional weight for everyone
→ not chasing men who can’t show up
→ not drowning in overthinking
→ not abandoning yourself
→ not burning out
You feel calmer.
Clearer.
Steadier.
More connected to your body.
More at home in yourself.
This isn’t about managing your patterns.
It’s about healing what’s been driving them.
Why I do this work
I help women heal the real root of emotional eating, self-doubt, over-giving, and relationship patterns through Internal Family Systems therapy, somatic healing, and where appropriate, medicine-assisted integration.
The women who work with me are high-functioning, emotionally intelligent, and self-aware, yet stuck in loops they can’t think their way out of.
And here’s what they actually say when this deeper work lands:
“I’ve actually stopped binging.”
“I feel calmer.”
“I’m not snapping or reacting like I used to.”
“I don’t feel guilty saying no anymore.”
“I just realised other people’s emotions aren’t mine to carry.”
“I feel lighter.”
“I feel happier, and even my partner has noticed.”
“I just feel more like myself.”
They don’t talk about discipline.
They talk about relief.
They talk about having space again.
They talk about coming home to themselves.
Because when the inside shifts, the outside finally does too.
What you reclaim when you do this work
✓ your energy
✓ a deeper trust in your body
✓ your emotional capacity
✓ your boundaries
✓ your clarity
✓ your self-trust
✓ your ability to rest
✓ your voice
✓ your joy
✓ your sense of self
You stop coping.
You start living.
And you finally feel like you again.
Your turning point starts here
Not because there’s anything wrong with you, your system and body are so incredibly intelligent.
Not because you need fixing.
But because something deeper in you is finally ready to heal.
You don’t need another plan.
You don’t need another reset.
You don’t need another Monday.
You need a space where your system can finally exhale.
And when you’re no longer led by fear, guilt, or over-responsibility, everything shifts.
Your relationship with food shifts.
Your relationships shift.
Your career shifts.
Your joy returns.
And so do you.